If you’re questioning whether it’s abuse… you already know.
No dramatics. No sugarcoating. Just clarity, strategy, and a path forward.
Constant gaslighting or revision of past events
Cycles of guilt, shame, and control
Weaponizing help or financial support
Public kindness, private cruelty
Isolation masked as “protection”
“You’re too sensitive” or “You always twist things”
Over-apologizing just to keep the peace
Dreading phone calls or visits
Feeling like you’re being observed, not heard
Emotional whiplash—affection, then punishment
Trauma bonding is not loyalty
You’re not crazy—you’re conditioned
Guilt is a weapon; clarity is your shield
Quiet documentation: texts, timestamps, patterns
Financial prep: open a solo account, hide a small reserve
Build a soft contact network (1-2 trusted people)
Rehearse neutral responses: “I’m just tired,” “I need space,” “I’m focusing on work”
Identify safe spaces you can go when things escalate
We built this resource because we’ve lived it
The system wasn’t made for survivors, so we’re making one